The DUI
Today I found myself standing at a computer in the criminal court division of our local courthouse. It was an old operating system and it was foreign to me. I found myself struggling with the computer's outdated instructions and my frustration must have been apparent to those around me. An attorney who happened to be waiting in line walked over and offered to help me. We entered my X's name into the public computer and several items popped up which were also foreign to me.The kind attorney looked at the screen and said, "Oooh....someone you know has quite a drinking problem".This weekend, I discovered a few things that I didn't know. Some I can share now and others I can't. The joy (depending on which side you are on) of a small town is that eventually you learn things whether you want to or not.The Main Discovery:I discovered that my X has a recent DUI charge on his record from November. Based on the law, I believe that he is driving my daughters on a suspended license which is my initial concern at the moment. He had a previous drunk driving on his record from college. While I don't agree with drunk driving, I can chalk the first one up to being young and irresponsible. He also had a previous 'drunk in public" charge on his record from June of 2010. I have a hard time understanding or comprehending how a 37-year old, educated man with two young children could be drinking and driving or drunk in public.Discovery #2:I also discovered that I am still being called "T-Rex" in front of my children while in his care. Slight correction-- the "nickname" has actually been shortened. I am now being called, "TR" for short when he is speaking poorly of me to anyone who will listen. He also instructed my daughters that "what happens when you are with dad stays here" and "if your mother asks what happens when you are with dad then you can tell her that it is none of her business". He can't control himself. He is damaging my daughters and he simply doesn't care.I am frustrated. Period.That frustration will be channeled into the mother bear which lives in me.###One Mom's Battle: Our mission at One Mom’s Battle is to increase awareness of Cluster B personality disorders (Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder) and their impact upon shared parenting and the Family Court System which includes Judges, CPS workers, Guardian ad Litems (GAL), Parenting Coordinators (PC), Custody Evaluators, therapists and attorneys. Education on Cluster B disorders will allow these professionals to truly act in the best interest of the children.History of One Mom's Battle: In 2009, One Mom’s Battle began with one mother, (Tina Swithin), navigating the choppy waters of a high-conflict divorce in the Family Court System. Since then, it has turned into a grassroots movement reaching the far corners of the Earth. Tina's battle spanned from 2009 - 2014 during which time she acted as her own attorney. Ultimately, Tina was successful in protecting her daughters and her family has enjoyed complete peace since October 2014 when a Family Court commissioner called her ex-husband a "sociopath" and revoked his parenting time in a final custody order.Tina Swithin: Divorcing a narcissist? Tina Swithin's books are available online at Amazon (print, Kindle or audio format). Each year, Tina offers life-changing weekends of camaraderie and healing at the Lemonade Power Retreat. Tina also offers one-on-one coaching services and a private, secure forum called, The Lemonade Club, for those enduring high-conflict custody battles. [wp_ad_camp_1]