What is a High Conflict Divorce Coach - and why do you need one?
Divorce is said to be one of the most stressful experiences a person will face in a lifetime. A high conflict divorce or child custody battle with a narcissist or a toxic individual means the stakes are even higher. Having a powerful team during a high conflict divorce or child custody battle increases the odds of a successful outcome. If you are in need of a strategy partner as you navigate a high conflict divorce, you've come to the right place. We invite you to learn more about our program and how a divorce coach can help you whether you are divorcing a narcissist or a high conflict individual.
Dream Team Consists Of:
✔ An attorney who is both skilled and experienced dealing with high conflict individuals.
✔ A therapist who is trauma-informed and understands narcissistic abuse, domestic violence, coercive control and post separation abuse.
✔ A High Conflict Divorce Coach (HCDC) who will serve as a strategy partner to assist with coparenting challenges, documentation, communication, motivational support and emotional encouragement.
Why do you need a High Conflict Divorce Coach?
A HCDC can help clients to better understand the family court system and will also ensure they are presenting in the best possible light. The term “divorce coach” may lead some to believe that a HCDC only works with individuals who have been married or that the service ends when the divorce decree is signed. A HCDC works with anyone who is attempting to navigate a high conflict custody battle, whether married or not. In addition, a HCDC excels when it comes to the topic of coparenting and communicating with a toxic or narcissistic individual.
Divorce Coaching v. High Conflict Divorce Coaching
A Divorce Coach (DC) becomes a cheerleader for their client, providing emotional support as the client learns to traverse the new, unchartered territory of divorce and the blank pages that await them in the next chapter. Those blank pages can be anxiety inducing, so the support of a DC is invaluable. A DC asks open-ended questions, allowing the client to take the reins and lead while simultaneously tapping into their wants, feelings and core values which often get lost or neglected during the marriage. The end result is often an empowered client who is able to see the process in a new and more hopeful light.
A High Conflict Divorce Coach (HCDC) becomes a strategy partner for their client, getting into the trenches and assuming position as a trusted team member. A HCDC maintains strong boundaries, not crossing into attorney territory (legal advice) or therapeutic territory (mental health). The services and support of a HCDC complements the work of family law attorneys and mental health providers. The HCDC holds a unique lens, helping their clients to see things from a variety of angles and perspectives so they are fully educated on the process. The HCDC guides the client to operate from a place of strategy versus emotion.
Our Coaches Are Trained In Post Separation Abuse
At the core of our training program, is our deep understanding of post separation abuse and the difficult dynamics survivors face in a court system that often prioritized parental rights over child safety. HCDC’s understand that post separation abuse is often more painful than the domestic abuse suffered during the relationship. A HCDC will meet a client wherever they are on their journey, whether they just left the relationship or find themselves feeling defeated by the court system and futile attempts at coparenting.
How Can A HCDC Help You?
While it does not take two to tango when a narcissist is involved, many people are unfairly labeled as part of the problem. Learning how to effectively communicate in a shared parenting situation with a narcissist is like learning a foreign language. Graduates of the High Conflict Divorce Coach Certification Program can serve as strategy partners and will work with you to find tools, plans and solutions.
If you resonate with any of the following statements, you would be helped by having a divorce coach on your team
I am new to divorcing a narcissist (or high conflict individual) and I don’t want to make mistakes.
I am struggling with radical acceptance and/or managing my expectations.
I struggle with what (and how) to document.
I have been using gray rock communication and it’s hurting my case.
I don’t understand what matters to the court system and I feel lost.
I feel alone and no one understands – my own therapist seems baffled.
I am at odds with my attorney, and I don’t feel heard.
I am facing a custody evaluation and I don’t know how to prepare.
The judge sees me as part of the problem and I don’t know how to turn this around.
Program Founder And Director: Tina Swithin
Tina Swithin is an expert on navigating child custody and co-parenting issues when a narcissist is involved. Tina spent over ten years in the family court system, acting as her own attorney (in pro se) due to extreme financial abuse. With all odds against her, Tina successfully protected her children and now teaches others all that she has learned. While Tina is not taking new clients, she has trained a dedicated, strategic group of High Conflict Divorce Coaches to provide support for those who are in the trenches of the family court system.
Tina's existing clients can book appointments here
FIND A COACH TO HELP YOU
Please note that coaches are listed by geographical location however, they are trained to help anyone, regardless of location.
DISCLAIMER: Coaches listed on our website have been certified through the High Conflict Divorce Coach Certification Program (HCDCCP) however, these coaches are not employees or contractors of HCDCCP. While we are happy to be able to provide this database of coach graduates, we assume no legal or financial liability or responsibility for your experience with HCDCCP graduates. Your decision to hire or contract with a coach listed here is between you and your divorce coach.