Everyday is a Full Moon with a Narcissist
Everyday is a full moon when dealing with a narcissist…
“Is the beam from a lighthouse affected by howling wind and rain? It remains perfectly steadfast and unaffected by the storm. Your true self is like that. Nothing can ever harm you once you are consciously aware that it is so." -Vernon Howard
My storm continues into it's tenth year of family court hell. We are currently battling multiple storms in three different branches of the court: all related to the same family.
- Family Court: Enforcing the court order which began as a stipulation in November.
- Probate Court: Termination of parental rights which will likely be stalled until the family court case is settled.
- Criminal Court: My ex-brother-in law's case approaches year three of this nightmare with no end in sight. You can read the recent update by clicking here.
We had court on Monday, May 20th. We have court again on Tuesday, May 28th and again on June 7th.
And here I thought my storm was in my rear view mirror. A quote I saw stated, "In many cases, the aftermath of a storm is the worse than the storm itself, leaving behind debris, damage, outages and floods."
On Monday, just before our court case began, my ex-husband officially filed to reestablish visitation with the girls. Yes, you read that right. And, he wants his MOM to be the supervisor. I feel like I am in a bad movie and the background music just took a dark and dramatic turn to keep us all on the edge of our seats.
In court, he showed his crazy: telling the judge that it's my intention to keep this case going because I am profiting off the drama and, that I run a business teaching moms how to get 100% custody through vexatious litigation.
He spent 30 minutes spewing word salad and talking in circles, frustrating the Commissioner over a Jeep worth maybe $20,000 that he was ordered to turn over to me. I have the Jeep but he fraudulently transferred the title into his brother's name and refuses to turn it over. Now, his brother is holding it ransom. I, in turn, I am waiving $94,180.82 and all future support in exchange for peace. Now, we are filing contempt charges against him. This comes down to his loss of control. Anyone watching this from the courtroom is probably visualizing him in a straight-jacket however, his distorted, delusional brain prevents him from thinking logically. I want to scream, "YOU ARE ARGUING OVER A P.O.S. OLD JEEP WHEN I AM WILLING TO FORGIVE $100,000 OF MONEY THAT BELONGS TO MY DAUGHTERS!? WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?!"
And then I take a deep breath and I consider the source.
He's a monster and a madman.
At that very same moment, in the midst of my anxiety taking over, the lighthouse sends a beam of light that pierces through the darkness and reminds me that my daughters have a voice. They are 12 and 14-years old. They have a strong voice backed by their memories of this horrible family. I've raised two amazing little warriors. While this is my journey, they are also on their own journeys and maybe they will get to use their voice and be heard.
I will do my best to remain steadfast and unaffected by the storm.
I know this is easier said than done and that some days are harder than others.
I will do my best.
You will, as well.
We've got this.