December 2009-February 2010- The court order stated that he was supposed to notify me of where my daughters would be staying during their weekend visitations. As with all orders, he was above the order and the court. He refused to give me a valid address despite my weekly pleas.
Originally, he provided me with an address in a gated community which he knew I couldn’t access. A Google Map Search showed that the address was actually an empty, dirt lot. To further verify this- I drove to the address with a friend who had access to the gated community. It was a fake address.
When confronted, he gave another address near the first. With the help of a local realtor, I was able to prove that this was also a false address.
A third address also proved to be false. Over the phone, he laughed at me. Taking pleasure in my pain- once again.
For three months, I lived in fear each and every visit. Not knowing where my daughters were staying or whom they were staying with. My daughters constantly mentioned that another male lived at the house yet I had no idea who this person was. I lived in fear wondering if he was going to return them at the end of the weekend. The constant worry, stress and anxiety literally ate at me like a cancer.
When lightly reprimanded by the court in February of 2010– he finally provided a correct address. This three month period was just the beginning of a 1.5 year nightmare of constantly wondering and worrying about where my children were being kept. Constant worry.
One Mom’s Battle: Our mission at One Mom’s Battle is to increase awareness of Cluster B personality disorders (Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder) and their impact upon shared parenting and the Family Court System which includes Judges, CPS workers, Guardian ad Litems (GAL), Parenting Coordinators (PC), Custody Evaluators, therapists and attorneys. Education on Cluster B disorders will allow these professionals to truly act in the best interest of the children.
History of One Mom’s Battle: In 2009, One Mom’s Battle began with one mother, (Tina Swithin), navigating the choppy waters of a high-conflict divorce in the Family Court System. Since then, it has turned into a grassroots movement reaching the far corners of the Earth. Tina’s battle spanned from 2009 – 2014 during which time she acted as her own attorney. Ultimately, Tina was successful in protecting her daughters and her family has enjoyed complete peace since October 2014 when a Family Court commissioner called her ex-husband a “sociopath” and revoked his parenting time in a final custody order.
Tina Swithin: Divorcing a narcissist? Tina Swithin’s books are available online at Amazon (print, Kindle or audio format). Each year, Tina offers life-changing weekends of camaraderie and healing at the Lemonade Power Retreat. Tina also offers one-on-one coaching services and a private, secure forum called, The Lemonade Club, for those enduring high-conflict custody battles.