Tonight I am researching the laws surrounding stalking and cyberstalking. Since I’ve started this blog I have followed the mission of Alexis Moore because she is an inspiration to me and many others. I love stories where people take a stand and refuse to be a victim. There was a time when I was so beaten down emotionally that I wasn’t able to stand up to my X. I now have that power and damn, does it feel good!
Why am I researching stalking and cyberstalking? A beautiful, brave woman in Northern California came forward to help me with my case. Despite being afraid for her own personal safety, she put my daughter’s well-being first and wrote a declaration about my X husband and the disturbing behaviors that she has seen over the past few years. Tonight she is feeling the wrath of my X and has been inundated with the same text messages that I receive from him: “You are a terrible human being. How Dare you! Karma will treat you…I hope you can’t sleep realizing you’ve damaged children. You are destined for a lonely life. How do you sleep?”
The text messages are relentless and frightening. He knows how to operate within the perimeters. She sent him a “cease and desist” letter weeks ago– by email and in writing. He can’t stop himself.
If you are the victim of cyberstalking or any type of stalking, I encourage you to contact Survivor’s in Action for help.
Here are two great resources from their website:
Safety Plan Worksheet for Victims of Stalking or Cyberstalking
Stalking and Cyberstalking Incident Log
I am incredibly grateful for the women who have come forward to help my daughters. I will do everything in my power to ensure that his harassment stops. I know what it feels like to be in their shoes because I have lived it for three years. We all may be showing up together at the DA’s office and demanding that they prosecute him. Like with many other things, there is power in numbers. I have advised her to call the police every time he sends her a text message and file a report each time. Document, document, document.
Do you have additional advice based on experience? I welcome your comments or insight.
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