At 8:10am, I opened my door to take the trash outside. I had a strange feeling immediately- like someone was there. I stood on my porch and looked down the stairs. It took me a moment to process what was happening. “He” was sitting in his mini-van at the bottom of the stairs— staring up at me.
I looked down the stairs and saw 17 picture frames lining my stairs from top to bottom. He had been ordered by the court to return all of the pictures that he stripped from my walls– or to purchase new frames. This was his sick way of following court orders but it also allowed him to wreak emotional havoc on me at the same time.
I was trying to wrap my mind around what was happening. I stood there staring at him– in total shock. He sat in his car staring back at me.
All I could bring myself to say was, “You are insane. You are completely insane”.
His reply: “Here are all of your picture frames”.
I quickly ran into the house and got my camera. He turned his car on and drove away.
I took a picture of the frames lining the stairs and then went into the house. I was physically shaking. He thrived on intimidating me. He derived pleasure from causing me pain. It’s hard for me to comprehend to this day.
One Mom’s Battle: Our mission at One Mom’s Battle is to increase awareness of Cluster B personality disorders (Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder) and their impact upon shared parenting and the Family Court System which includes Judges, CPS workers, Guardian ad Litems (GAL), Parenting Coordinators (PC), Custody Evaluators, therapists and attorneys. Education on Cluster B disorders will allow these professionals to truly act in the best interest of the children.
History of One Mom’s Battle: In 2009, One Mom’s Battle began with one mother, (Tina Swithin), navigating the choppy waters of a high-conflict divorce in the Family Court System. Since then, it has turned into a grassroots movement reaching the far corners of the Earth. Tina’s battle spanned from 2009 – 2014 during which time she acted as her own attorney. Ultimately, Tina was successful in protecting her daughters and her family has enjoyed complete peace since October 2014 when a Family Court commissioner called her ex-husband a “sociopath” and revoked his parenting time in a final custody order.
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