I was granted a new custody evaluation at our October hearing and Seth has been on his best behavior ever since. In October, Seth began staging an area at his brother’s home so that he can convince the evaluator that he has a stable, healthy environment for the girls. He must be under his attorney’s thumb because he has once again been cooperating by using Our Family Wizard and communicating in a fairly civil manner. The girls have had a full two months of peaceful visits with no issues. Seth’s mother, Cleo is now visiting from overseas so he will be supervised even more for the next few weeks.
For the past two months I have had a sense of normalcy that I have never experienced. I have received a glimpse into what it must be like to co-parent with a healthy person. I have to admit that I am jealous that this is what most people experience on a regular basis! While I know that it will be short-lived and out the window when the evaluation concludes, I have been savoring this time. I do not look forward to what is around the corner because I know the reality of the situation. I cringe at the mere thought of the confusion the girls will experience from the ups and downs of this ride.
Example: Seth was over 15 minutes late bringing the girls home last night but because he was with his mother, he actually apologized out loud. I was holding onto the car door to prevent myself from falling over. I have learned to appreciate the little things in life and I am grateful that this holiday season was peaceful. The way it should be.
I wish that everyone at One Mom’s Battle had the same experience this holiday season– I know that this is far from true but it is what I wish for and pray for daily — for all of us: peace.
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