Who Who, Who Who
I used to like the Who’s live version of the song with the dark and mysterious lyrics. I listened to the part with the expletive over and over again with the volume pegged just to annoy anyone who wasn’t an angst filled teenage boy. That was my truth. I was a pain in the ass.
Today, I am different. However, I am still my truth. Seems simple enough. However, becoming a party to a contentious divorce proceeding with anyone capable of wholesale fabrications will have you defending, possibly even questioning that truth.
I’m not new to having my truth challenged.
Over the summer, I walked up to a loud party of people I had never met before. It was a public campground at 1:23 AM and I am a Park Ranger. It was my job. Before I opened my mouth, someone called me a racist. In that moment I held to the oath I took to: “Maintain courageous calm in the face of danger, scorn, or ridicule.” I also held to my truth. I am not a racist. I stuck to the issue, followed protocol, and, eventually, reached resolution. Imagine however, that I took it personally, that I got sucked in and sidetracked. That I started arguing, or worse, got angry at the accusation. The farther down that road you go, the more credibility you loose, the longer the party rages…
During Tina’s battle, truth challenges and distortions have been constant. I was tempted to attach a copy of the court declaration I submitted in response to one of those challenges. However, suffice to say that we are not running a brothel, I have not profited from child trafficking, and I am not a partner in a Maui mansion (yet).
While it has been annoying to be in question, the hard part hasn’t been about me. The hard part has been Tina’s fight for truth. Knowing what her truths are and how fictional and distorted the challenges have been. Since this site chronicles those battles, I guess my advice here today would be simple; remain calm, don’t get sucked in or sidetracked, don’t let your emotions (anger) damage your credibility. But most of all, know your truth.
My truth, today, is that I put on a Smokey hat and mimic recorded owl calls for our nighttime nature hikes. I am no longer a pain in the ass. Now, I just ruffle feathers.
Whoo Whoo – Whoo Whoo…
One Mom’s Battle: Our mission at One Mom’s Battle is to increase awareness of Cluster B personality disorders (Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder) and their impact upon shared parenting and the Family Court System which includes Judges, CPS workers, Guardian ad Litems (GAL), Parenting Coordinators (PC), Custody Evaluators, therapists and attorneys. Education on Cluster B disorders will allow these professionals to truly act in the best interest of the children.
History of One Mom’s Battle: In 2009, One Mom’s Battle began with one mother, (Tina Swithin), navigating the choppy waters of a high-conflict divorce in the Family Court System. Since then, it has turned into a grassroots movement reaching the far corners of the Earth. Tina’s battle spanned from 2009 – 2014 during which time she acted as her own attorney. Ultimately, Tina was successful in protecting her daughters and her family has enjoyed complete peace since October 2014 when a Family Court commissioner called her ex-husband a “sociopath” and revoked his parenting time in a final custody order.
Tina Swithin: Tina Swithin’s books are available online at Amazon (print, Kindle or audio format). Each year, Tina offers life-changing weekends of camaraderie and healing at the Lemonade Power Retreat. Tina also offers one-on-one coaching services and a private, secure forum called, The Lemonade Club, for those enduring high-conflict custody battles.