November 16, 2011– I have been debating whether or not to put yet another court date on the calendar. After spending two years in court– it’s not my favorite place to be. This morning, I made the decision to do it. Our next date is December 14th.
As much as I don’t want to go back to court– I need to. I could come up with a million excuses as to why NOT to do it…I can come up with two reasons why I should: my girls.
Out of the past eight visitations– he has only attended four. The rest were complete no-shows. No calls. No emails. No show.
Actually, I take that back. He did call once when he realized that he had missed an entire weekend. He said, “I didn’t realize that it was my weekend”. My response, “I’m sorry. I don’t know what that’s like. I don’t know what it’s like to forget that you are a parent”.
Out of the four visits that he did decide to show up for– he was 45 minutes late to one and was late returning the girls on another visit. On one of the four visits, the girls came home and told me that he slept for a “very long time” while they were at the beach building sand castles last month. Basically, my little girls were walking to and from the ocean alone to collect water for their sandcastles while he slept on a blanket. He sees them a total of six hours each visit so the thought of missing one minute of that time is hard for me to grasp. I don’t understand it. I don’t understand him. I want better for my daughters. They deserve better.
I want the court to know what my children are going through. I want the occurrences to be on court record.
I am putting on the battle gear and preparing for my next day in court.
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