Our stories are similar — a horrible divorce with a selfish, twisted ex-husband and a court system that finally saw through him. Her story gave me hope and also made me sad.
It gave me hope that my own “monster” would finally fade off into the distance and stop harming my daughters. I am coming to terms that “he is who he is”. This isn’t just divorce craziness. This is his craziness. This is a man who is so miserable and selfish on the inside that he can never and will never put his daughters first. That is our reality- mine and the girls’.
It made me sad because the author is still dealing with the ramifications of her monster years later. Her daughters are in their 20’s and are still affected by this selfish man and his actions. He didn’t change. He found a new family and a new life where he could carry on the facade that he is a good person. They see through him yet there is still pain.
I want to believe that I can enrich my daughters’ lives so much that they don’t feel this pain as adults. That is a big weight to carry.
I am still searching for that bubble to place them in for protection.
One Mom’s Battle: Our mission at One Mom’s Battle is to increase awareness of Cluster B personality disorders (Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder) and their impact upon shared parenting and the Family Court System which includes Judges, CPS workers, Guardian ad Litems (GAL), Parenting Coordinators (PC), Custody Evaluators, therapists and attorneys. Education on Cluster B disorders will allow these professionals to truly act in the best interest of the children.
History of One Mom’s Battle: In 2009, One Mom’s Battle began with one mother, (Tina Swithin), navigating the choppy waters of a high-conflict divorce in the Family Court System. Since then, it has turned into a grassroots movement reaching the far corners of the Earth. Tina’s battle spanned from 2009 – 2014 during which time she acted as her own attorney. Ultimately, Tina was successful in protecting her daughters and her family has enjoyed complete peace since October 2014 when a Family Court commissioner called her ex-husband a “sociopath” and revoked his parenting time in a final custody order.
Tina Swithin: Divorcing a narcissist? Tina Swithin’s books are available online at Amazon (print, Kindle or audio format). Each year, Tina offers life-changing weekends of camaraderie and healing at the Lemonade Power Retreat. Tina also offers one-on-one coaching services and a private, secure forum called, The Lemonade Club, for those enduring high-conflict custody battles.