by Tina Swithin
I have written four books to date and my favorite of all is The Narc Decoder. I loved receiving emails from those in the trenches who are finding humor and reclaiming their power in the aftermath of narcissistic abuse. Some of the narcissistic communication is so over the top – quoting song lyrics in an attempt to lure us back into their web. One of the moms in our OMB admin group received an email from her ex in which he quoted Adelle’s song, “Hello.” Camaraderie and laughter quickly ensued between the administrators. From there, one of the administrators grabbed the email and went running for the Narc Decoder:
SNAP, FIZZLE, POP…….
Adele’s Hello…Narcissist Version
Hello it’s me (cluster B)…
I was wondering how many years it would take for you to see through me….
To go over, all of my lies….
They say that times supposed to heal ya….
But I don’t give a damn…
Hello, can you hear me (I’m important!!!)….
I’m in California dreaming about ways to destroy you for leaving…
When we were younger, you fell for me (cluster B)….
There’s such a DIFFERENCE psychologically between US!!!
And a million miles………
Hello from the NARCISSISTIC SIDE!!!!!!
I must have stalked you a thousand times….
To gather information on everything that you’ve done…(projection, anyone?!)
But when I call you never seem to be home…(By the way…where are you? I hope you don’t have a life!)
One Mom’s Battle: Our mission at One Mom’s Battle is to increase awareness of Cluster B personality disorders (Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder) and their impact upon shared parenting and the Family Court System which includes Judges, CPS workers, Guardian ad Litems (GAL), Parenting Coordinators (PC), therapists and attorneys. Education on Cluster B disorders will allow these professionals to truly act in the best interest of the children.
History of One Mom’s Battle: In 2009, One Mom’s Battle began with one mother (Tina Swithin) navigating the choppy waters of a high-conflict divorce in the Family Court System. Since then, it has turned into a grassroots movement reaching the far corners of the world. In 2014, after five years on the battlefield, Tina was successful in her plight to protect her children and her ex-husband was ordered to have no contact with their daughters based largely on emotional abuse. Tina has dedicated her life to raising awareness on high-conflict custody battles and helping those who are in the trenches.