Back in October, a parenting evaluation was ordered. We were both instructed to submit multiple items to the court including information on our finances. This was all due by November 1, 2012. I submitted everything on the 31st of October and repeatedly checked with the court but Seth failed to submit his financials. I have suspected that his failure to comply was holding up the evaluation because the Commissioner didn’t know how to divide the costs of the evaluation.
I finally received the court order today which details exactly what is going to be investigated and to say that I am grateful is a huge understatement. The Commissioner has obviously been going through our file with a fine tooth comb because the amount of detail is intense. He has ordered 18 different items to be investigated which are mainly made up of items that I have pointed out going back to when our divorce started in 2009.
Most of it focuses on his alcohol abuse, former girlfriends and their experiences, anger issues, our live-in nannies testimony, whether or not he staged his former home for the parenting investigation, whether the children have been harmed in his care and whether or not they are free to use their cell phone as needed. The Commissioner is obviously listening and spent an incredible amount of time on this. I feel like this is our chance to be heard. I feel so good about the direction this is going and I have heard great things about the evaluator from multiple people that I have spoken to.
Tonight, I am thankful and hopeful. (((Hugs))) to all of you– thank you for listening to my story and thank you all for sharing yours! -Tina
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