The Petitioner shall email the Respondent 24 hours in advance to let her know he will exercise visitation, if no email is received visitation is cancelled”.
This new order protects my daughters from the constant disappointment of waiting at the pick-up location when he doesn’t show up for visitations. My goal isn’t to keep them from their father– he is who he is and they will figure that out on their own without my help. If he doesn’t email us to confirm visitation then it allows us to make other plans and go on with our life. My goal is to stop his ability to rule our lives which is what he thrives on.
To Re-Cap: This weekend, the X and I had a “stand-off” pertaining the most recent court order. The problem, I didn’t have it in-hand to prove what the judge had ordered. We were in court on Wednesday and it usually takes a few days for the order to hit our file. I am well-versed in the court timelines by this point. In my mind, the order was pretty clear. I assumed (wrongly) that he understood the order as well. I knew it wouldn’t sit well with him because it was another rule that he had to follow– he doesn’t like rules. He doesn’t like being told what to do.
Friday came and went– no email. Saturday morning, as expected– he was at the pick-up location and insisting that I bring the girls immediately. Threats followed– he was calling the police…he said I was vindictive…he said that I was “this- that- and the other”. The email rant followed the voice mails– accusing me of Parental Alienation Syndrome…accusing me of having Lupus versus Multiple Sclerosis (he MUST be smarter than my doctor who graduated from Harvard, right?)…on…and on….and on.
Music is therapeutic for me and the right song always seems to come on at the right time– Christine Aguilera’s song, “Fighter” just came on and Wikipedia describes it this way, “This video shows the metamorphosis of Aguilera’s slow, yet steady progression of her inner-strength, from being heartbroken, to becoming unbreakable”.
I have inner strength– that’s what got me through this. It’s been a process.
I feel unbreakable– that too has been a process.
One Mom’s Battle: Our mission at One Mom’s Battle is to increase awareness of Cluster B personality disorders (Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder) and their impact upon shared parenting and the Family Court System which includes Judges, CPS workers, Guardian ad Litems (GAL), Parenting Coordinators (PC), Custody Evaluators, therapists and attorneys. Education on Cluster B disorders will allow these professionals to truly act in the best interest of the children.
History of One Mom’s Battle: In 2009, One Mom’s Battle began with one mother, (Tina Swithin), navigating the choppy waters of a high-conflict divorce in the Family Court System. Since then, it has turned into a grassroots movement reaching the far corners of the Earth. Tina’s battle spanned from 2009 – 2014 during which time she acted as her own attorney. Ultimately, Tina was successful in protecting her daughters and her family has enjoyed complete peace since October 2014 when a Family Court commissioner called her ex-husband a “sociopath” and revoked his parenting time in a final custody order.
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