The story as told to me by my daughters:
Our four year old daughter was crying because she was scared of a spider in the room where she was supposed to sleep. He couldn’t find the spider and he was increasingly frustrated with her cries. He threatened her— if she didn’t stop crying then he would put her in the car overnight…in the dark, scary parking structure. He knew that she was afraid of the parking structure– so he threatened her. Then he left the room. She was hysterical and couldn’t calm down.
My older daughter, age 6 became so upset that she left the room and followed him. She begged him not to put her sister in the parking structure and promised him that she would keep her sister quiet if they could sleep together. He agreed. She went back in and comforted her sister. Once again, she had to play the role of the mother– of the protector. Protecting her little sister from a 37-year old bully who uses cruel and mean threats to get his way.
I was confident that this would stand up in court. How could they not listen to this?
I was hopeful because my daughter had confided in her therapist about this exact story. The therapist then told the attorney who had been appointed to represent my daughters in the final months.
One Mom’s Battle: Our mission at One Mom’s Battle is to increase awareness of Cluster B personality disorders (Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder) and their impact upon shared parenting and the Family Court System which includes Judges, CPS workers, Guardian ad Litems (GAL), Parenting Coordinators (PC), Custody Evaluators, therapists and attorneys. Education on Cluster B disorders will allow these professionals to truly act in the best interest of the children.
History of One Mom’s Battle: In 2009, One Mom’s Battle began with one mother, (Tina Swithin), navigating the choppy waters of a high-conflict divorce in the Family Court System. Since then, it has turned into a grassroots movement reaching the far corners of the Earth. Tina’s battle spanned from 2009 – 2014 during which time she acted as her own attorney. Ultimately, Tina was successful in protecting her daughters and her family has enjoyed complete peace since October 2014 when a Family Court commissioner called her ex-husband a “sociopath” and revoked his parenting time in a final custody order.
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