August 28, 2009- I couldn’t go home.  I was terrified.  I wasn’t afraid that he would hit me– he had never even raised a hand towards any of us.  I was afraid he would kill me.

This was a Friday night.  The Friday night that I was supposed to leave the girls with him for the weekend.  I no longer saw that as an option.  We stayed with friends again and I notified him by email that we would not be home.  He drove to the house anyway.

I received a phone call at 10pm –duration 2 minutes and 7 seconds. 

He was angry and clearly drunk.  Threatening to “wreck” me in the community.  Threatening to email 3,000 local business owners to tell them what a slut I was.  Stating that my daughters needed a life without my influence (I don’t have a college degree…he has a BS in Physiology/Cell Biology…therefore, I am a disgrace…essentially worthless).  He closed the message by saying, “8am tomorrow…have my daughters here or you are DONE”.

August 29, 2009

2:16 am another voicemail came through–duration 1 minute 48 seconds.

Angrier and more intoxicated.  Rambling that he will wreck me in the community.  “there is karma in this world and you will just have to deal with that” he went on and on.

2:32am another voicemail came through- duration 41 seconds.

He was furious and drunk.  “YOU ARE WHITE TRASH…YOU ARE A LOOSER” and on….and on.

August 29, 2009 at 6:30am

This was one of the darkest days of my life.  I checked into the Women’s Shelter.  A place that I had volunteered for in the past and a place that I collected turkeys for each year during the holidays.

It was the most humbling experience of my life.

One Mom’s Battle: Our mission at One Mom’s Battle is to increase awareness of Cluster B personality disorders (Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder) and their impact upon shared parenting and the Family Court System which includes Judges, CPS workers, Guardian ad Litems (GAL), Parenting Coordinators (PC), Custody Evaluators, therapists and attorneys. Education on Cluster B disorders will allow these professionals to truly act in the best interest of the children.

History of One Mom’s Battle: In 2009, One Mom’s Battle began with one mother, (Tina Swithin), navigating the choppy waters of a high-conflict divorce in the Family Court System. Since then, it has turned into a grassroots movement reaching the far corners of the Earth. Tina’s battle spanned from 2009 – 2014 during which time she acted as her own attorney. Ultimately, Tina was successful in protecting her daughters and her family has enjoyed complete peace since October 2014 when a Family Court commissioner called her ex-husband a “sociopath” and revoked his parenting time in a final custody order.

Tina Swithin: Divorcing a narcissist? Tina Swithin’s books are available online at Amazon (print, Kindle or audio format). Each year, Tina offers life-changing weekends of camaraderie and healing at the Lemonade Power Retreat.  Tina also offers one-on-one coaching services and a private, secure forum called, The Lemonade Club, for those enduring high-conflict custody battles.




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