I called my X’s new attorney this morning because I wanted to inquire about the court order that his office was instructed to prepare. I felt uncomfortable entering the weekend without a court order detailing the new arrangement. I was told that it was prepared yesterday and mailed. With that information, I went to my post office box and found the order.
It was wrong.
The seventh item stated the following:
X shall notify Tina Swithin at least 24 hours in advance of his scheduled visitation if he is not going to exercise his visitation with the minor children.
It should read:
The Petitioner shall email the Respondent 24 hours in advance to let her know he will exercise visitation, if no email is received visitation is cancelled.
While it seems like a small issue, it isn’t. My X often stands us up with no prior notice. The judge put this order into effect for a reason. I read the paperwork and it said, “if you have any questions or changes, please advise”. I called the attorney’s office and was met with a snooty response by the receptionist who is clearly not my biggest fan. The feeling is mutual. I notified her of the error and asked what to do. “Nothing” she stated. “Nothing”, I asked. “It says to notify you if there are any needed changes within 10 days”, I said. “We aren’t going to change it”, she responded.
I asked her to have Mr. Attorney call me and he did. Mr. Attorney was condescending and insisted that I was wrong. I held firm. He stated that this is a standard order used with the majority of his clients. I argued that X was not a “standard client” and that the order was put in place for a reason– by the commissioner. He then tried to play hardball with me and said, “If you want to go this route, we can go ahead and leave the order as-is (this meant they wouldn’t agree to change the time from 10am-4pm to 11am-5pm so that my daughters could attend church with me)”. I didn’t waver under his threat. “That’s fine, Mr. Attorney. I am happy to take this back in front of the judge. Go for it.”
He then stated he would call “his client”. Minutes later, he called back and admitted that I was correct and that they would change the orders.
I can play this game also and refuse to waiver.