Coin flipping or heads or tails is the practice of throwing a coin in the air to choose between two alternatives, sometimes to resolve a dispute between two parties. It is a form of sortition which inherently has only two possible and equally likely outcomes. -Wikipedia
I am starting to think that “Heads” means supervised visits are in order and “Tails” means that we will try unsupervised visits and hope that the children aren’t harmed in the process. There is no other rhyme or reason to what is happening. The attorney who helped me today said that she reviewed our file and the decisions are all over the place.
Using a coin to settle a dispute is just dandy except that there are two children involved here. I am disgusted by today’s outcome. Basically, there was no solid proof that the X was sleeping or hungover when the girls almost drowned– his word against mine. I was basically told that the girls should take swimming lessons. My attorney asked that the order be written stating that my youngest daughter should be in a life jacket at all times due to her seizure disorder. The Commissioner declined that request and said that he isn’t going to “micro-manage these children’s lives- what time they eat dinner, go to bed, etc”. The Commissioner then stated that, “X would have to live with himself if anything happened to the children” or something along those lines.
With that last statement by the Commissioner, I mentally checked out of the courtroom. I couldn’t believe that he said that. It further shows that the courts do NOT understand Narcissistic Personality Disorder. He (the X) doesn’t care about the children– he cares about winning this case. We all walked out of the court room and within 2 seconds of stepping foot in the hallway, the X started spewing about my blog and how it is ruining his family’s reputation. He wasn’t excited about getting to see his daughters without supervision– he was upset that his family secrets are being exposed.
Let me (try to) understand this. My children almost drowned in a swimming pool less than a month ago while in their fathers ‘care’. On May 30th, the Commissioner felt that (based on the evidence), supervised visits were in order. My X never attempted to see the children during the past four weeks and then called our home drunk on Father’s Day. Now, three weeks later he is fit to have them without supervision?
At this point, I plan to bring additional attention (media) to my case and others. Change needs to be made. People should not have rights that supersede the safety and well-being of their children merely because they have the ability to reproduce. I am interested in starting a non-profit agency so if you have suggestions or resources on where to begin, please send them to me at [email protected] I am going to take a few days to catch my breath and re-group. After that, I plan to begin making changes.