When I awoke on March 27, 2012, I didn’t know that my life would be forever changed. I was working at my desk that morning with the Today Show playing in the background. I never watch television which is where the real irony comes in. I was halfheartedly listening to Matt Lauer interview supermodel Christie Brinkley. While I knew who Christie was, I really didn’t follow her career or know anything about her life. The interview took a turn for the worse when Matt Lauer launched into an attack on Christie over her high-conflict divorce with a person who was diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Before I knew it, I was glued to the television as Christie choked back tears and said something that resonated with my soul: “I just want peace.” By this point, I was in tears and so was Christie.
In that moment, I felt understood. Prior to that moment, I had felt so alone. I felt like I was the only one in the world enduring a Category 5 Divorce Hurricane with a narcissist. As someone who avoids conflict at all cost, this divorce and custody battle was threatening my mind, body and spirit. Christie said the words that summed up everything for me: “I just want peace.”
Yes, I wanted peace for myself. I wanted peace for my children. I just want peace.
After that interview, Christie was inundated by emails from others who were also fighting to protect their children against high-conflict individuals in the Family Court system. Christie began to send these people to my tiny little blog as a resource and as a result of her actions, my blog grew, my platform expanded internationally, and I’ve gone on to publish four books about divorcing individuals with NPD.
Every day, I hear stories that rock me to my core. There are different variations and nuances but each and every person that I speak to shares the same battle cry: I just want peace.
One Mom’s Battle’s 2018 goal is to raise awareness of the issues in the Family Court System on a massive level. The #MeToo movement has paved the way for our voices to be heard like never before. As Oprah Winfrey said in her monumental speech at the Golden Globe awards, “speaking your truth is the most powerful tool we all have.”
I invite you to speak YOUR truth. You may be in a position to share your entire family court story or you may be completely silenced. At a minimum, we ask that you share our hashtag that is the universal battle cry for every parent fighting to protect their child(ren) in the family court system or for anyone facing a high-conflict divorce: #IJustWantPeace