Two years ago, I started a new Christmas Eve tradition– we find a small town nearby and spend the day there. In December of 2009, we spent the day in Cambria. We sipped coffee (hot cocoa for the girls) at a local coffee shop with our pinkies high in the air (that’s the way princesses do it!)…we ate lunch at Linn’s (the BEST homemade mac & cheese)…we shopped in art galleries…and we enjoyed a carefree day. We forgot about the chaos of the world around us and we had fun.
In 2010, we spent the day in the Arroyo Grande Village. We walked on the historic swinging bridge…we saw the roaming chickens…we ate yummy spaghetti at Gina’s Italian Cuisine…and we shopped. Together- the three of us. Team blonde– creating a new tradition that we will honor for years to come. It’s healing and its refreshing. The girls look forward to it and I look forward to it.
A few weeks ago, my best friend (also a single mommy) treated us all to a weekend in San Francisco. We stayed in the heart of Union Square and we had a great time. The girls got to ice skate for the first time and they got to see the sights of a big city at Christmastime. It was a weekend of great memories and it is my hope to make this an annual tradition for the rest of our lives.
This Christmas Eve is right around the corner and we will visit a new town or village for our third-annual Christmas Eve tradition. I look forward to fun times, new memories and a day with my daughters.
Merry Christmas (or Happy Hanukkah!)– Tina
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