There is a looming court date in January. This one doesn’t cause me stress– it’s a date put on the calendar by my X to lower his “current” child support amount. This is not my battle to fight nor do I care too. I leave everything between him and the local Child Support Services office.
The long and short of it all: he lost another job. I should clarify what I mean by “current” child support amount. Technically, there is no current amount nor has there been since May. There is a past-due amount that keeps accumulating each month. In 2010, he hid income by failing to mention large bonuses that he had from his employer. These issues were addressed in court last year and now he is in arrears.
The past due amount currently sits at $24,958.99
He lives in a luxury condo in San Francisco paying two-thousand dollars per month for a single bedroom. He always has new clothing, shoes and carries a Blackberry yet he has never asked if the girls need school clothing, groceries or if I need help with their health insurance. It’s been difficult for me to understand how a man can do this.
Their entitlement needs get in the way of fairly dividing property and money and in the end they do not think of what is best for the child or children. They think about what is best for them.
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