Divorcing a narcissist is not for the faint of heart. No matter how educated one may be on Cluster B personality disorders, even the most experienced mental health professionals can not truly be prepared for the destruction a narcissist will cause. The path of divorcing a narcissist is incredibly lonely and isolating because very few… Read More Does the Battle Ever End?
One Mom’s Battle Handout for Therapists by Rebecca Davis Merritt, Ph.D. ( To download this as a printable handout, click here ) Why were you Given this Handout? If you are a therapist or psychologist and your client or client’s parent has given you this handout, it means that they believe the other parent has a Cluster… Read More Handout for Mental Health Professionals by Rebecca Davis Merritt, Ph.D.
by Tina Swithin If there is one thing I want to instil in my daughters, it is to trust your instincts — your inner voice, your gut feelings, your intuition. In the family court system, the judge requires black and white evidence — regardless of how strong our instincts are. We teach our children to keep speaking… Read More Divorcing a Narcissist: Trust Your Instinct
by Tina Swithin So much has happened in recent weeks — if you have been following along, you are aware that I received a 4-page cease and desist letter from my ex-in-laws. They are demanding that I #StopTellingTheTruth and retract statements that I’ve made. The truth is my defense and I will not be… Read More Divorcing a Narcissist: Light versus Darkness
by Tina Swithin Please help me protect my right to free speech: click here to go to Go Fund Me #StopTellingTheTruth In 2009, I began divorce proceedings and a child custody battle in pro se. It defied logic at every turn — several therapists told me that my ex-husband had high narcissistic or worse, sociopathic traits. In… Read More Tina Swithin: Freedom of Speech
by Tina Swithin I have been struggling with how to process the events that have unfolded in my life over the past two months. If you missed my July e-newsletter, click here to get up to speed. I have met many challenges dating back to childhood traumas but I have always dusted myself off and faced each bump… Read More Divorcing a Narcissist: Step by Step and Minute by Minute
Note: In my books, I refer to my ex-husband’s mother as, “Cleo.” I refer to my children as Piper and Sarah and my ex-husband as Seth. Even though the adults in this situation have been publicly outed, I will continue to protect the identities of everyone except my ex-brother-in-law, Jason Robert Porter. by Tina… Read More A Broken Family Court System and an Enabling Mother
by Tina Swithin Yesterday, I discussed the 2010 Custody Evaluation that placed my daughters in the “family home” of my ex-brother-in-law, Jason Porter, despite my concerns about him which were expressed in great detail during the evaluation. This ex brother-in-law is currently being housed in San Luis Obispo County jail on an unprecedented seven million dollar bail… Read More The Custody Evaluation and the Enabling Mother
by Tina Swithin Hi everyone! It’s been quite a while since I’ve checked in. As I opened the OMB blog to write a post, I had a flood of memories come through. This was the place I came to vent, purge and try to make sense of a world that makes no sense. When I started… Read More The Narc Decoder – Book Release
By Sarah, an OMB Administrator As I reflect back on my very long journey to leaving my ex for good, one moment stands out in my mind lately. I met an old friend for dinner one evening. She was going through a difficult divorce and as I listened to her talk about her experience, I… Read More Divorcing a Narcissist: When I am weak, then I am strong