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Welcome To One Mom’s Battle

Our mission is to increase awareness of Cluster B personality disorders (Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder) and their impact upon shared parenting in the Family Court System which includes Judges, CPS workers, Guardian ad Litems (GAL), Parenting Coordinators (PC), therapists and attorneys.

Resources

Educating yourself on Narcissism or divorcing a narcissist is the single most important thing that you can do. Knowledge is power and you need to stay two steps ahead…

Educate Your Judge

Interested in educating your Judge or Family Court Professional (GAL, attorney, custody evaluator, co-parenting therapist, CPS worker, PC or your child’s therapist)?…

Family Court Reform

I strongly believe that together, we can bring education and change to our Family Court System. I ask for your help in making that happen…

Testimonials

You no longer need to go through the ordeal of divorcing a narcissist alone. Through this battle, Tina Swithin is a beacon of clarity. You will realize that you are not alone…

Meet Tina Swithin

 

Tina Swithin survived a Category Five Divorce Hurricane while acting as her own attorney in a custody battle that turned her family’s life upside down. While divorces are never easy, Tina quickly learned that a divorce involving an individual with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) takes the term, “high-conflict” to a level that few can comprehend. In an effort to articulate what was happening  in her new “Alice in Wonderland” reality, Tina took shelter from the storm by chronicling her journey in her (now) internationally recognized blog, “One Mom’s Battle.”

Tina’s little village grew to include thousands of people who all shared the same story. There were different variations and nuances but the common denominator was Narcissistic Personality Disorder. In 2012, Tina published her first book, “Divorcing a Narcissist: One Mom’s Battle” with the goal of letting others know that they weren’t alone.

Tina’s battle came to an end after four long years when she walked out of the Family Court System on July 10, 2013, with the one thing that she had dedicated her life to securing:  her daughters’ safety. Despite the fact that the odds were against her, Tina never gave up. She waded through the muddy waters of a courtroom that was filled with the lies and manipulation. Tina prevailed and obtained a final custody order for full custody while her ex-husband was ordered to have professionally supervised visits. In October of 2014, Tina’s battle took an unexpected but positive turn when the courts revoked all visits and all contact. Tina and her children have complete peace.

In 2014, Tina published her second book, Divorcing a Narcissist: Advice from the Battlefield which is a compilation of advice and strategies to guide readers through every stage of divorce and custody battles with individuals who fall into the Cluster B Personality Disorders.

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I am excited to report that Narcissistic Personality Disorder has been receiving a lot of press lately!

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Tina Swithin specailizes in handling high conflict custody battles.

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The Lemonade Club

In the beginning of my divorce from a narcissist, I felt incredibly alone. I had been stripped of all of the things that once mattered to me…
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Resources While Divorcing A Narcissist

Educating yourself on Narcissism or divorcing a narcissist is the single most important thing that you can do.

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Read What Our Clients Are Saying

“ I received more helpful information from you in a one-hour consultation today, than I have an almost 2 years of working with the attorneys. I should have saved my money and just worked with you!!! ” ...

Karen

“ I was so hungry to educate myself on how to protect myself and my little one from someone I knew was unsafe. I didn't know who to trust or turn to for advice. I felt like I was still living in the wake of Superstorm Sandy (which is what I called my relationship). Late one night, I was frantically searching the internet for information on personality disorders and co-parenting. I read a blog written ...

Dawn

“ When I came across one of Tina's articles on the Huffington Post website, I knew that I had found a light at the end of a very dark tunnel. It was the first time in two years that I felt a sense of hope and relief. By that time, my friends had grown tired of hearing about my ongoing custody battle. It was exhausting to think about sharing my story with anyone but I ...

Jessica

“ Tina has been an essential part of my journey. There was a time when I was so alone in the custody battle; a time when I felt utterly confused, afraid, and overwhelmed by lawyers, court dates, and a punitive, unreasonable, terrifying ex-husband who had this knack of pulling it together in front of other people. I searched for ways to cope, to understand, and to find a way through but was stunned by the ...

A.F.

“ Tina Swithin's books should be required reading for every mental health professional and their divorced clients. Too many therapists counsel clients to use communication and co-parenting strategies that are completely ineffective, and even damaging, for someone dealing with a personality-disordered ex. Tina gives readers a different paradigm for navigating high-conflict divorce, which includes learning how to anticipate and respond to crazy-making behavior, both in and out of the courtroom. Her on-line support group, One ...

Virginia Gilbert, MFT

“ Divorcing a narcissist isn’t easy, but Tina Swithin provides many of her own tips and numerous suggestions from others to help along the way in her latest book. Personality disorders are not obvious on the surface, which is why many people marry those with these disorders and why many courts are easily misled by them -- for months or years. To really understand what is going on takes looking under the surface and knowing ...

Bill Eddy, Co-Author of SPLITTING: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

“ After years of research as an advocate, Swithin knows enough about these disorders to put some clinicians to shame. If you need to start over, this is the woman you want holding your hand through the process.” ...

Dr. Craig Malkin, Psychology instructor at Harvard Medical School and author of the critically acclaimed book, Rethinking Narcissism

“ Despite the years I spent working in a maximum-security state prison, some of Tina's descriptions of narcissism's brutality chilled me. At the same time, her calm reassurance offered feelings of encouragement. I have had the unique opportunity of working closely with a gifted writer in the past, and I have come to deeply appreciate writing that comes from the heart, soul, and mind all at the same time. There is a growing body of ...

J. Paul Shirley, MSW and Co-Author of “Stop Walking on Eggshells”

“ Tina's books have become a lifeline during my custody battle. While reading her first book, Divorcing a Narcissist: One Mom’s Battle,” I felt like someone finally understood my battle and then wrote about it. It’s very difficult to explain what happens in the Family Court System and Tina does it beautifully and honestly. I thank Tina on behalf of every one of us who struggled to articulate what we were going through. Thank you ...

Kelly Rutherford, Actress, Mom and Philanthropist

“ You no longer need to go through the ordeal of divorcing a narcissist alone. Through this battle, Tina Swithin is a beacon of clarity. You will realize that you are not alone, you are not crazy, and someday you will start to whisper “thank you” to the darkness… thank you to the pain, the fear the struggle even thank you to the narcissist ….because in the darkness you will find light you never knew ...

Christie Brinkley, Actress and Supermodel


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The single most important thing that you can do

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Change to our Family Court System

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Hope

Tina, I ran across your blog today, while researching ways to deal with post-divorce co-parenting with a narcissist. ...

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Natalie Tessa

Hi Tina, Thank you for doing this blog!! I am in the same situation, and had recently started ...

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LookingForward

Dealing with my ex’s return from across the country 2-3 times a year is the most exhausting thing ...

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