Authored by “Anonymous” In honor of October being Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I feel compelled to share my story. It took years of daily effort to reach a place of healing and freedom, and it is my goal to use my life changing experience, to help others recognize abuse and have the ability to escape… Read More Guest Blog: Find Your Reason to Leave
Two individuals who once comprised a loving marriage, now bear titles of defendant and plaintiff, standing before the family court among a plethora of custody cases. Judges and family relation officers laboriously examine intimate details of a family, attempting to make reasonable decisions affecting multiple lives. Their rulings directly affect the future care and psychological… Read More Courtroom Insights: Narcissistic Personality Disorder Affects Parenting and Child Development
Six years ago today (September 15, 2011), I was standing in Glenn’s living room (my husband/ then boyfriend) and I leaned over and said, “I’m going to start a blog.” I was so tired of feeling like a case number on a Judge’s desk. I was tired of the fact that no one cared about… Read More The 6th Anniversary of One Mom’s Battle
Several years ago, I attended a retreat hosted by the amazing Lundy Bancroft, author of, “Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men,” in Massachusetts. The retreat was a gift to myself after several years on the battlefield of family court. For me, the retreat was a turning point of… Read More The Lemonade Power Retreat: November 3-5, 2017
The breakdown of the OMB non-profit status (501c3) was spurred by a health scare that I faced. I decided to simplify — the stress of the board and things that were happening behind the scenes pushed me over the edge. In the process of simplifying, I realized that things were happening the way they were… Read More Educate Your Judge
Have you ever walked through a fog that was so thick that you had no choice but to lean on your faith to guide you? I recently went through some trials that knocked the wind out of me — namely, the reorganization of One Mom’s Battle. A series of events took place that rocked my… Read More One Mom’s Battle – It Takes a Village
Divorcing a narcissist is not for the faint of heart. No matter how educated one may be on Cluster B personality disorders, even the most experienced mental health professionals can not truly be prepared for the destruction a narcissist will cause. The path of divorcing a narcissist is incredibly lonely and isolating because very few… Read More Does the Battle Ever End?
One Mom’s Battle Handout for Therapists by Rebecca Davis Merritt, Ph.D. ( To download this as a printable handout, click here ) Why were you Given this Handout? If you are a therapist or psychologist and your client or client’s parent has given you this handout, it means that they believe the other parent has a Cluster… Read More Handout for Mental Health Professionals by Rebecca Davis Merritt, Ph.D.
by Tina Swithin If there is one thing I want to instil in my daughters, it is to trust your instincts — your inner voice, your gut feelings, your intuition. In the family court system, the judge requires black and white evidence — regardless of how strong our instincts are. We teach our children to keep speaking… Read More Divorcing a Narcissist: Trust Your Instinct
by Rebecca Davis Merritt (OMB President) and Jennifer (OMB VP) If you and your children are experiencing Domestic Violence by Proxy chances are your children are being gaslighted. A Cluster B gaslights the children by portraying you as an uncaring, negligent, untrustworthy parent when you are none of these things. Gaslighting is a form of… Read More Cluster B Custody Battles and Gaslighting