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Family Court Failures: Letters to the Media


The recent story of “A” and Baby G is just another reminder of how deeply flawed the Family Court System is. As I mentioned this morning on Facebook, I would like to put together a stack of stories to mail to media outlets.  I want to show first-hand accounts of the failures in the Family Court System.  The Family Court System is not doing it’s job– which is to act in the best interest of the child.  My goal is to compile as many stories as possible and bind them together with a cover sheet attached.

This is exactly what I need from you:  A one-page word document telling your story.

1. At the top of the page, please list your name, the ages of your children and which court house (county and state) that your case presently resides in.

2. I know the reality of what I am asking– it is very difficult to tell your story in one-page.  I know this from experience– heck, I wrote an entire book about this topic!  We need to make each piece focused and to the point. Each of our stories are so different — but each story shares a similar thread: failure by the Family Court System to act in the best interest of our children.  If you personally find it difficult to adhere to one page, I suggest doing a summary in the beginning and then use bullet points to highlight specific incidences such as:

  • 2005- A 3111 (Custody Evaluation) was ordered which uncovered major issues such as a criminal record and alcohol infractions.
  • 2010- A CWS report was opened because XYZ left our child unattended in a car for 45 minutes.
  • 2011- Stalking charges were filed and a restraining order was issued.
  • 2012- Despite an extensive criminal history, the Judge ordered unsupervised, overnight visits 6 nights per month.

The key to this is to have as many stories as possible without overwhelming the media outlets with pages and pages of details.

3. Close by listing your contact information in case there are additional questions.

4. Email me the one-page document to Tina@onemomsbattle.com with the subject line saying, “Media Letters.”

Thank you!!!!  Let’s raise our voices together and get the media to begin focusing on these issues.  We can break the silence and demand change!  -Tina


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2 thoughts on “Family Court Failures: Letters to the Media

  1. I’d like to see the media pick up on the foundational story: What is Family Court’s job? In my wife’s case, the FC in her county has indeed focused on what is best for the kids, and it’s considered somewhat “old fashioned.”

    It was my experience in a neighboring county, though, considered a “progressive” court, that Family Court’s job is to protect the “rights” of parents. That translates to a very narrow definition of abuse, such that unless a parent has severely physically injured a child or has violent or drug-related felony convictions on their record, they have an unassailable right to emotionally and psychologically injure their child simply because the child is “theirs.”

    My wife’s FC is run by a long-term commissioner who takes his role there very seriously, and he has a track record so people entering his court know what to expect, keeping the freaks from returning. In my FC, it’s a revolving door of judges, most being ambitious folks aiming to climb the judicial ladder, so they are intent on establishing their legal track record. Since children’s futures aren’t part of their law school training or legal filters, kids just aren’t on the radar so sociopathic behavior commonly has successful days in court. The freaks keep coming back because their narcissistic behavior is not on trial, especially if they have a sociopathic attorney who knows how to “work it.”

  2. As a mom heading into divorce from an abusive spouse and preparing to do battle over custody, I applaud this effort. As a journalist, I can tell you it’s been my experience, that it’s almost impossible to do stories like this. Mainly because the Courts and other agencies absolutely will not talk, not even in generalities, about cases involving minors. It is frustrating. I know, from my own experience the problems that exist, not only with Family Court, but with state agencies like the Dept. of Human Services. I have heard some gut wrenching stories. I believe they are true. I have seen it first hand. But without comment from both sides, news outlets are reluctant to touch these issues. These are the reasons I became a journalist, to make a difference. It is a daily struggle against “the man.”

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