I am at a loss for how to understand this system.
It is my understanding that his co-dependent, enabling mother wrote a declaration (which I will go and read tomorrow at the courthouse) for her son. This is the woman who created a monster and is happily married to another. Over the summer, this same woman sat and listened to my daughters recount a story about their father threatening to make my youngest daughter sleep in a parking structure alone. When my oldest daughter told her grandmother how she stopped her father by telling him that she would keep her sister quiet, she exclaimed, “Well that was a good solution!”. It was in that moment that I gave up all hope that she would ever protect my daughters.
My x is on his normal “high” after what he perceives as a “win”. He has been on a “textual harassment” binge against the woman in the Bay Area who is his current stalking victim. She wrote a declaration for me citing his insane and scary behavior over the past few years. This was just one of many texts that he’s sent over the past two weeks:
The crazy narcissistic woman’s request was denied to take my children from me . (this is the one with 200 pages of herself online after she cheated on me while we’re married) That narcissist. She’s very vindictive, much like you. How does feeling full of vengeance work for you both I wonder? Stressful? Aging? Negative? All of the above. I wouldn’t know because I shun people like you two from my life. Oh yeah, and all your negative bs you wrote to hurt two innocent children and turn the court against me, all your effort to be hateful to a man you said you loved as recently as July was in vain. Hope to see you at the gym soon to laugh at you aloud. Everyone I know here will know what you did factually. That’s the truth.
No. The truth is that the court system just put the lives of two little girls in the hands of a psychopath. I don’t need an $8,000 test to tell me what I am dealing with. I am dealing with a man who is out of his mind and a court system that just doesn’t understand. They see a man who expresses interest in being in the picture (versus being a dead beat dad) and they find that refreshing. They don’t understand that he is a sick, twisted, manipulative man who cares about his daughters as possessions. He cares about them as pawns to hurt me and control me because he has no other way to do it anymore.
I will regroup and continue to be a voice for my daughters.
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