As I mentioned before, Christmas Eve (yesterday) was our “new” annual tradition and we decided to spend the day in Morro Bay, California. We ate breakfast at a little small-town diner called, The Coffee Pot and lunch at the Otter Rock Cafe. We spent the day walking the boardwalk, shopping for prized shells and then letting the girls play in an awesome little park called, Tidelands.
This was our third year celebrating our Christmas Eve tradition however, it was different this year.
This was the first year that Glenn joined us on our adventure. In our 2.5 year relationship, we’ve taken things very slow. He didn’t meet the girls until we were about six months into our relationship– we both wanted to be sure that this was a solid, stable and long-term relationship before we involved the hearts of two little girls. We got a lot of raised eyebrows from people who thought that we were being overly cautious but I’m glad that we choose the path that we did
This is also the first year that Glenn, the girls and I have woken up in the same house– and celebrated Christmas together. We’ve very recently merged forces– a single dad and a single mom combining two completely different worlds under one roof. Glenn is the father of 3 boys (17, 20 and 22) and I have 2 girls (4 and 6). It’s a huge step filled with learning experiences, growing experiences, patience and understanding. It’s also filled with love, mutual respect and companionship like I’ve never known.
It was nice to spend Christmas with someone who wasn’t waiting for the last present to be opened so he can slip out the door to embark on a long distance bike ride. It was nice to spend Christmas with someone who was present in the moment rather than just giving presents. I yearn for more than material items. This Christmas, I have gifts that money can not buy– love and happiness. That is an amazing feeling.
The girls are with their father’s family from 12-7pm today and I have time to reflect on where my life was three years ago and where it is today. As difficult as the past three years have been– I’d do it all again to be where I am today.
The lesson I’ve learned: while I couldn’t understand “why” while I was in the moment— having faith gets you through the moment and into a place like this. My heart is happy and content.
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